America’s Core Dating Problems
Here is a list of what I believe are the deep-seated, core problems we are experiencing now in America. I will explain them more throughout this course, as well as the solutions.
Core Problems Presently Found in Dating in America
These are some of the reasons why we need The Rules for Success to help those who are looking for love and marriage. In the following lessons, you will find some of the reasons why we have the problems listed in Lesson One. You will probably find them very interesting and some even surprising. However, before we go there, I would like to address a couple of misconceptions you and your friends may have about love, sex, and romance.
Just Let Love Happen
Many think attraction and love should flow from within, in other words, just let it happen. I love that. I used to think that way for many years. However, after four decades of working with singles and watching and studying the results, I have discovered that for those who just let love happen, the relationship is less likely to grow in a healthy manner, making it less likely to succes.
All too often, singles get caught up in lust or the romance of it all and they misinterpret this for love. Later, they find there was not enough to hold the relationship together over time because the relationship had been built more on the hope of love and the feelings of sexual desire for each other. I now believe, true, long-term, committed love is developed from a combination of the feelings and logic.
Romance and Chemistry
When it comes to romance and chemistry, I’m all in! These are important aspects in a relationship. I call this the Heart stuff. I also believe it is important to include the Head stuff, for a good balance. Just like when you plan to start your own business. You can’t spend all your time basking in the excited feelings that come from thoughts of having a successful, productive business. You can’t spend all your time talking about all the money you will make, all the things you will do with it, and all the people you will help.
That’s all fine and good, but you still have-to put time into researching all the aspects that go into having a successful, productive business. You also have-to do the work. Relationship connecting, evaluating, and growing should be lots of fun but also takes time, skills, and knowledge to make it successful and lasting.
Many singles just want the fun. They don’t want to learn, evaluate, or work. Fortunately, not all singles operate this way. There are some who sincerely desire to do whatever is necessary to find love and keep it growing. These are the singles I hope to help with my books, online courses, webinars, and events. Are you one of them? If so, check out the next lessons. I think you will be pleasantly surprised at what is coming.
Now it’s time to clear up some confusion about lust, romance and real love. Love used to be confusing… until now!